Monday, January 30, 2006

I'm happy for you, but...

Listening to: 'Foolish Games' by Jewel [Pieces of You]

First of all...*anonymous*, thank you for your thought-provoking comment...PLEASE TELL ME WHO YOU ARE!!! Yes I do believe in Karma and I know my actions will be rewarded...I just need to be reminded of that sometimes, so Thank You (again) :)

What do you do when someone you care about dearly is in the same position you were in a few years back, and you want to warn them about the possible heartbreak to come, but at the same time you don't want to let your bitter sentiments rub off on them? I suppose it is possible that not all guys are jerks...but I'm a skeptic. For all I know, he may be one of the nicest, most caring human beings on the planet, who will never even think of harming her. On the other hand, he may be just another one of the beautiful people, biding his time until he finds a new means of entertainment. I cannot, and WILL NOT stand by and watch her get hurt...although from ~7000 miles away it's easier said than done. She knows what I've been through and I've tried to explain my fears (as much as the brevity of a text message will allow)..but she can't see the scars. She can't see how it can cripple you and turn you into someone you despise. She can't imagine the rivers of tears she might be about to cry. And I can't be there to hold her hand. I feel so helpless. I am happy for her, honest. But I don't know him...and can I really trust entities that I know nothing about?

5 comments:

  1. As much as you try to help people they will never understand it for themselves until they learn it the hard way.
    You friend most likely understands your concerns but if she's hung up on this guy, she is also most likely going to see him as the most wonderful person on earth and nothing like the ass of a guy that hurt you.
    We all have to learn these lessons one day, she's just lucky that she'll have someone to fall back on who's been in the same situation if something does happen.. let's hope it doesn't..
    Think the best thing you could do for her is to let her know you're looking out for her.

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  2. Lessons are best learned by yourself. It's harsh, but true. People in love are blind to the admonitions (believe me i know) and the best thing you could do as a friend is passively warn but don't come in between them...you might be turned upon before she realised you were just looking out for her.

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  3. i like annonymous bt i ges i'll let u kno who i am... Dimuthu (D.T) reporting for duty ma'am! And i kno very well that v all need a lil bit of remindin indhala hitala with things like that.. keep the faith sis.. and keep it real

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  4. I think you should warn her to be wary and not be caught up in the whole love rush. Tell her to chose her steps carefully and not read into what he says too much. Tell her not to assume anything. Running of a ledge is both a way of getting hurt as well pushing the guy away.

    If you have reason to believe that the guy is not the best for her though, you should let her know. As a friend you are obliged to tell her, and she is obliged to hear you out.

    Make sure what you say/do is limited to advice though. You shouldn't take a more active role than that!

    Just my 2p, hope it helps :)

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  5. The thing is, people never really listen or stop to understand until and unless whatever you warn them actually happens to them.

    It's sad but the whole 'Nah, I think it's different with me' notion dominates most =)

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